Love and Togetherness

I’ve been working at Carolina Parent for almost 10 years. During that time, I’ve written dozens of articles — literally, hundreds of pages — to help make parents’ lives easier. I’ve written about safety hazards and health risks. I’ve written about reducing stress and increasing self-esteem. I’ve written about temper tantrums, diaper rash, teenage acne and the everyday challenges that working parents face.

Those were, and still are, important topics in the lives of parents and children in the Triangle. Raising children isn’t easy; there are constant hurdles to overcome and endless lessons to learn. But the topics we haven’t written about — the topics we too infrequently touch on in Carolina Parent and in the media in general — are also important. And they are the very topics that we should be covering and celebrating on monthly, if not daily, basis.

What are those topics? Love and togetherness. Family. Happiness. The joys of raising children, making a home and building a family. Laughter and fun and the importance of meaningful connections with the people in our lives. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.

So why don’t we cover these topics in the pages of our magazine all the time? Because we’re so busy trying to solve problems — helping parents save time, keep their families healthy, make the right decisions — we forget to honor the good times.

I think parents are in a similar boat, too focused on what is going wrong and what could go wrong to even notice all the wonderful aspects of parenthood … let alone talk about them. Think about it. When was the last time you told someone how amazing your 4-year-old is? Have you ever tried to put into words the way your heart feels when you’re nursing your baby? Do you call your friends when your kids do something brilliant or funny or touching? How often do you stop what you’re doing, whatever you’re doing, to spend a few minutes thinking about how lucky you are, how beautiful your children are, how grateful you are to be a parent?

Most parents are quick to share their struggles. There is abundant, genuine bonding between parents who are helping one another through rough times. But, for some reason, parents are much less likely to broadcast their happiest and proudest moments. To some, it feels like bragging; to others, it feels like tempting fate. The end result is that we often hear how hard it is to be a parent, but we rarely hear how wonderful it is.

At Carolina Parent, we plan to change that. In this issue, you’ll find plenty of proud parents talking shamelessly about their beautiful and brilliant children. From “The Most Important Things I’ve Learned from my Child” on page XX to “Ten Reasons to Love Being a Dad” on page XX, we’re focusing on the good stuff. And, in the coming months, we’re going to do our best to put more happiness in every issue of our magazine. If we do a good job, hopefully, we’ll be adding some happiness to your family’s life, as well.

If you want to share your proudest moments, your joyful thoughts or your favorite funny stories, please do! (You’ll find our contact information below.) We’d love to know what you think about family and about love and togetherness. Just don’t be surprised if you read your comments and stories in a future issue.

With warmest wishes for a happy and loving Thanksgiving,