Happy Hygiene: Age-Specific Ways to Motivate Kids to Be Clean
Prospective parents usually picture freshly bathed, rosy cheeked and perfectly coiffed tots wearing color-coordinated — and clean —outfits. Sadly, this vista is as fleeting as the “new baby” scent, because real kids are messy, dirt-loving and generally unconcerned with cleanliness.
Parents can, and should, teach kids to clean up. Basic hygiene skills are essential building blocks of healthy living and can even support academic success, according to studies linking hand washing to better school attendance. Here are age-specific ways to help kids learn to love cleaning up.
Make it fun
Toddlerhood is the time to start teaching healthy habits, says Dr. Danelle Fisher, M.D., vice chair of pediatrics at Providence Saint John’s Health Center in Santa Monica, California. Kids can start learning to manage hygiene basics like hand-washing and tooth-brushing as early as age 2, Fisher says, but parents should remember that mastering these skills can take years, even decades. Bottom line: Don’t expect immediate success. Keep hygiene fun by giving toddlers and preschoolers the independence they crave. Let them pick out their own hand soap and toothpaste, provide a stepstool at the sink and allow your child to at least attempt the task before swooping in to finish it yourself. Remember to allow enough time for these tasks, too. Young children can easily take several minutes to complete a task an adult could accomplish in seconds. Adults take these activities for granted, so it’s easy to rush kids though them. Instead, use a “tooth brushing song” or small timer to gauge how long kids should brush, and give simple explanations (“Soap helps wash germs down the drain!”) to foster learning and cooperation.
Cold and flu bugs are common when kids start school, but according to a recent study out of Australia, missing school days in grades three and five impacts student grades all the way through grade nine. What’s more, the report shows that attendance patterns in grade one set the stage for the rest of a student’s academic career. According to multiple studies, good hygiene (in particular, proper hand-washing) can help minimize sick days that hurt school success, but kids aren’t always cooperative when it comes to cleanliness, says certified parent coach Amy Werner of Raleigh.
“It’s not unusual for school-aged children to go through a phase where their personal hygiene is just not important,” Werner says. “They may skip baths, lie about having bathed or speed though the routines.” Parents should set clear guidelines and expectations for hygiene, treating it just like chores, homework or any other responsibility. Post a “hygiene checklist” to serve as a visual cue until good hygiene becomes a habit.
Sweet Smell of Success
Tweens and teens are responsible for their own personal hygiene, but sometimes clash with parents over standards. Here’s an area where peer pressure can be positive. “Teens are usually interested in what their peers do and how they act,” Fisher says. “Ask them to ask their friends about how often they bathe, wash hair, trim nails, and brush and floss.”
Take your teen on a trip to the drugstore and relinquish the reins for a bit; teens love picking out their own self-care products and may be more inclined to use the ones they select. Parents shouldn’t shame or embarrass a hygiene-challenged teen, though. Gentle prodding, such as, ”Did you remember to use soap?” can deliver a much-needed hint without sparking a hygiene feud. Check out “The Guy Book: An Owner’s Manual: Maintenance, Safety, and Operating Instructions for Boys” by Mavis Jukes or “The Care and Keeping of You” from the American Girl series.
Malia Jacobson is health and parenting journalist and mom of three. Her latest book is “Sleep Tight, Every Night: Helping Toddlers and Preschoolers Sleep Well Without Tears, Tricks, or Tirades.”