Dropping a Nap Without Drama
How to move gradually from two rest periods to one
The move from two naps to a single afternoon nap is a hallmark of toddlerhood, but it can be fraught with frustration for parents. Your tot knows when he's ready to transition, but with decidedly limited verbal capabilities, he can't easily clue you in. Instead, he cries and fights naptime, wakes up tired after a too-short nap or skips them altogether. Even worse, diminished day sleep may leave him so overtired that he sleeps restlessly and wakes at night. The result: a cranky toddler with exhausted parents.
Unfortunately, there's no quick fix. According to Dr. Raj Kakar, board-certified sleep specialist and medical director of Dallas Sleep – The Dallas Center for Sleep Disorders, it can take months to arrive at a comfortable one-nap routine. Until then, kids are in limbo. Two naps, and they're bouncing off the walls at bedtime; one nap, and they're fried by sundown.
The good news? A little knowledge goes a long way.
Ready or Not?
The first step toward a successful transition is determining whether your child is ready. Generally, a tot who can stay awake happily for four hours or more during the day is ready. Nearly all 1-year-olds will drop the morning nap before he or she turns 2 — most during the second half of the second year.
In "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child," author Dr. Marc Weissbluth reports that only 17 percent of 12-month-olds have a single nap. By 15 months, the number is 56 percent. By 24 months, 95 percent of toddlers have transitioned to one nap.
Don't jump the gun. Your baby will likely skip a nap or two long before she's ready to join the ranks of toddlers who nap once a day. The key to determining if she's ready to switch lies in consistency. If she bucks a nap every day for a week, then she's probably ready for fewer daytime siestas.
Gear Up to Step Down
During the transition, keep your eyes on the prize: a single nap in the afternoon. Older toddlers' circadian rhythms are geared toward an afternoon siesta. It helps them prepare for a pleasant evening, an easy bedtime and a restful night. But as any parent knows, toddlers can be uncooperative. They frequently take a late-morning nap without complaint and skip the critical afternoon nap. This lands them smack-dab in the middle of a meltdown by early evening.
When your child shows signs of dropping a nap, make sure the morning snooze is the one to go. Gradually step down your toddler's morning rest to preserve the afternoon nap by decreasing the length of the morning nap by 15 minutes every few days.
Going, Going, Gone
Even with a shortened morning snooze, many tots will persist in skipping the afternoon nap. In this case, Weissbluth suggests making the morning nap 10 to 20 minutes later each day until it occurs at midday. If your little one is falling asleep during dinner, try alternating two-nap days with one-nap days until she can get by on a single snooze, or offer a short catnap in the late afternoon.
Kathleen Yarbro of Spokane, Wash., used this technique to help her daughter, Bethany, make the switch. "I pushed the a.m. nap later and let her sleep as long as she needed," Yarbro explains. "Then she took a short catnap in the late afternoon until she could make it all the way to bedtime without one."
During the transition, your child might need an ultra-early bedtime to compensate for extra tiredness. Dropping a nap doesn't mean your child needs less sleep overall. Toddlers need 12-14 hours of sleep until around age 3.
Be prepared to spend extra time winding down your extra-tired tot before his single nap and at bedtime. This is a good opportunity to establish a naptime routine if you don't already have one. "It's important to create a recognizable ritual that the child associates with sleep," Kakar says. "This makes the transition from two naps to one nap easier."
Beware of the Nap Echo
After your child has made the switch, she may feel the pull of a morning nap for months. Tiny doses of morning slumber can disrupt the afternoon nap; a 10-minute snooze during a midmorning car trip may be enough to render your child napless come afternoon. Once a single midday nap is established, incorporate some morning quiet time, but be careful to preserve the afternoon rest.
Above all, don't expect an overnight change. It's usually a slow transition over weeks or months. "Most children take three to four months to fully make the switch," Kakar notes.
Look Out, World!
While you might miss the morning break, there are perks to parenting a single-napper. "It's liberating. Fewer naps to work around!" Yarbro says.
Kids are often so tired by the time their single nap arrives that they go down quickly and sleep for a longer stretch. Even better, you now have the entire morning free to explore the world with your little dynamo.
Malia Jacobson is a freelance writer who writes frequently about children's sleep and health issues. She successfully navigated the two- to one-nap transition with both of her daughters.