Training Wheels for New Phone Users


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If your child is one of the lucky kids who will be getting a new cellphone or smartphone during the holidays, now is the time to think about rules that should go along with it. Having a phone is a privilege and, like all privileges, this comes with responsibilities.

Family contracts that outline those responsibilities are available from several reliable sources including Connect Safely, teensafe.com and Sprint. Even if you don't feel the need to sign a formal contract with your child, these documents cover important talking points.

Being clear about expectations is step one, but many children also benefit from a little extra structure. Fortunately, parents have access to a wide range of technical tools that will help children remember and respect their rules. This checklist provides an overview of available cellphone and smartphone protections.

Curb phone calls. For very young children, it's often a good idea to establish an approved list of phone numbers so your child can make and receive calls only from those people. For older kids, you may still want software that shows traffic on the phone. Remember: Specific numbers can always be blocked if your child is being harassed or unduly influenced by peers or strangers.

Control texts. Depending on your family's plan and your child's self-control, you may want controls that limit the number of texts your child can send and/or receive. Some controls also allow parents to monitor texts for risky content. There's even an Android app, Ignore No More, that lets you lock the phone if you don't get a prompt response to your text messages.

Monitor websites. A smartphone allows a child unrestricted access to the Internet, so consider filters that block pornography, gambling and other mature content.

Supervise social media. A cellphone or smartphone makes it all too easy to share impulsive messages, photos and videos. You can arrange to be notified whenever your child posts or is tagged on social media. Or, you can set up controls that alert you only if your child uses unacceptable language, is involved in bullying or exchanges inappropriate photos.

Manage time. If the phone seems to be taking over your child's life, most carriers offer a timer that will allow you to establish intervals when the phone simply doesn't work because your child should be sleeping or paying attention in class.

Track location. If your child struggles to keep track of personal items, you may want to download an app that will locate the phone if it's lost. Some parents also use GPS to confirm that kids are where they are supposed to be.

Limit downloads. Kids with smartphones will want to explore the wonderful world of apps. Some simply aren't suitable for children. Some cost money that will show up on your phone bill. Some introduce malware onto the host phone. If you have any doubts about your child's judgment, look for software that will alert you when your child tries to download a ringtone, game or social media app.

Disable while driving. If your child is old enough to drive, consider using a feature that disables the phone whenever it's moving at the speed of a car.

Most families find they can protect their children adequately with services provided by phone companies, supplemented perhaps by free apps like MamaBear. If you decide to invest in more comprehensive software, detailed reviews of 10 options are available at cell-phone-parental-control-software-review.toptenreviews.com.

Carolyn Jabs raised three computer savvy kids, including one with special needs. She is working on a book about constructive responses to conflict. Visit growing-up-online.com to read more of her columns.

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Open Arts
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Harris Lake County Park
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Carrboro Elementary School
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Commons at North Hills
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Cameron Village
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Herbert C. Young Community Center
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Cost: Free

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The School for Creative Studies
5001 Red Mill Rd.
Durham, NC  27704
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Just in time for your next dress-up event!  Join us to make a tutu.  Kids 8 and up and teens make one for yourself!  Adults make one for yourself or for a child!   Call to register,...

Cost: Free

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Orange County Main Library
137 W Margaret Ln
Hillsborough, NC  27278
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Cost: Free

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Cameron Village
2108 Clark Ave.
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Homeschoolers of all ages enjoy a day of hands-on activities focused on the history of slavery and freedom in North Carolina. 

Cost: $4/student

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Historic Stagville
5828 Old Oxford Hwy
Durham, NC  27712
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Telephone: 919-620-0120
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Enjoy a guided tour of the trees, shrubs and flowers that adorn the park, followed by an art activity using plant materials collected during the tour. All ages and abilities welcome. Registration...

Cost: Free

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Kids Together Playground
111 Thurston Dr.
Cary, NC  27518
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Sip cider and enjoy a cookie while listening to music and a storyteller. All ages. 

Cost: Free

Where:
Weaver Street Market Lawn
101 E. Weaver St.
Carrboro, NC  27510
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Enjoy live German music, traditional Bavarian food and fare, German cars, a "Kinder Platz" zone wiener dog races, nail-driving competitions and more. Purchase tickets...

Cost: $5-$20

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Koka Booth Amphitheatre
8003 Regency Pkwy.
Cary, NC  27511
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We think about bats this time of year for Halloween. Join us as we learn the truth about bats and their importance to the ecosystem. After a wonderful story we will take a walk to some places...

Cost: Free

Where:
Harris Lake County Park
2112 County Park Dr.
New Hill, NC  27562
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Sponsor: Harris Lake County Park
Telephone: 919-387-4342
Contact Name: Joanne St. Clair
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Come join us for a party of spooky proportions! We will have classic monster mash games including a mummy wrap, Halloween Fear Factor eating challenge, Tarantula Toss, and other fun party...

Cost: Adults & Kids Over 14 years of age:$44; Kids 13 and under: $39

Where:
TreeRunner Raleigh
12804 Norwood Rd.
Raleigh, NC  27613
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Telephone: 919-410-7347
Contact Name: TreeRunner
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We think about bats this time of year for Halloween. Join us as we learn the truth about bats and their importance to the ecosystem. After a wonderful story we will take a walk to some places...

Cost: Free

Where:
Harris Lake County Park
2112 County Park Dr.
New Hill, NC  27562
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Contact Name: Joanne St. Clair
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Kids spend a night out in nature making memories and new friends in an old-fashioned, camp-style program. Ages 8-12. Register online. 

Cost: $15/resident, $19/nonresident

Where:
Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs
2616 Kildaire Farm Rd.
Raleigh, NC
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Telephone: 919-387-5980
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Join local bird expert Larry Zoller as we explore the different habitats of Harris Lake County Park to look and listen for our resident birds as well as fall migrants that have stopped to rest...

Cost: Free

Where:
Harris Lake County Park
2112 County Park Dr.
New Hill, NC  27562
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Sponsor: Harris Lake County Park
Telephone: 919-387-4342
Contact Name: Joanne St. Clair
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Give rugby a try. Take part in tag rugby pick-up games every Saturday morning at Baileywick Road Park, near the Second Shelter.  No experience necessary. All ages. 

Cost: Free

Where:
Baileywick Road Park
9501 Baileywick Rd
Second Shelter Field
Raleigh, NC  27615
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Sponsor: Raleigh Redhawks Rugby
Contact Name: denise travis
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Join the Preschool Teachers at Chestnut Ridge for a fun-filled morning of nature inspired activities in the great outdoors at Camp Chestnut Ridge. This event is for anyone interested in learning...

Cost: Free

Where:
Chestnut Ridge Camp and Retreat Center
4300 Camp Chestnut Ridge Road
Efland, NC  27243
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Sponsor: Chestnut Ridge Camp and Retreat Center
Telephone: 919-304-2178
Contact Name: Becky Garus
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The World Beer Festival Durham features a sampling of local, national and international breweries. Adults can also enjoy food and live music. Purchase tickets online.

Cost: $15-$60

Where:
Durham Bulls Athletic Park
Blackwell St.
Durham, NC  27701
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Cost: Free

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Cameron Village
2108 Clark Ave.
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Sponsor: Cameron Village Merchants' Association
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Contact Name: Amy Davis
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Make little pumpkins, a black cat and other Halloween creatures with polymer clay. Ages 5-10. Register online. Choose course #127352.

Cost: $19/resident, $25/nonresident

Where:
Cary Arts Center
101 Dry Ave.
Cary, NC  27511
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Cost: Free

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Carrboro Library
Inside McDougle Middle School
900 Old Fayetteville Road
Chapel Hill, NC  27516
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Sponsor: Orange County Library
Telephone: 919-969-3006
Contact Name: Jody Smith
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Cost: Free

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Orange County Main Library
137 W Margaret Ln
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Cost: Free

Where:
Community Family Life & Recreation Center at Lyon Park
1309 Halley St.
Durham, NC  27701
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Cost: Free

Where:
Kids Together Playground
111 Thurston Dr.
Cary, NC  27518
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Cost: $5/person

Where:
Historic Stagville
5828 Old Oxford Highway
Durham, NC  27712
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Enjoy live German music, traditional Bavarian food and fare, German cars, a "Kinder Platz" zone wiener dog races, nail-driving competitions and more. Purchase tickets...

Cost: $5-$20

Where:
Koka Booth Amphitheatre
8003 Regency Pkwy.
Cary, NC  27511
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Cost: Free

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Crowder County Park
4709 Ten-Ten Road
Apex, NC  27539
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Sponsor: Crowder County Park
Telephone: 919-662-2850
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Cost: Free

Where:
Historic Yates Mill County Park
4620 Lake Wheeler Road
Raleigh, NC  27603
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Telephone: 919-856-6675
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Cost: FREE

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Lake Crabtree County Park
1400 Aviation Pkwy.
Morrisville, NC  27560
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Sponsor: Lake Crabtree County Park
Telephone: 919-460-3355
Contact Name: Carol Cunningham
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Cost: $19/child

Where:
Middle Creek Community Center
125 Middle Creek Park Ave.
Apex, NC  27539
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Shop with more than 40 businesses operated by local children ages 6-14.

Cost: Free

Where:
The Commons at North Hills
421 Lassiter at North Hills Ave.
Raleigh, NC  27609
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Discover what's happening as the sun sets and listen to stories around a campfire. All ages with adult. Register online. Choose course #127673.

Cost: $18/resident, $24/nonresident

Where:
Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs
2616 Kildaire Farm Rd.
Cary, NC
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Telephone: 919-387-5980
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East Cloud Kungfu hosts a Parent's Night Out event, featuring a safe environment for kids as they about the wide world of kungfu.   Check it out!...

Cost: $25 first child, $20 each additional child

Where:
East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
5655-A Western Blvd
Raleigh, NC  27606
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Sponsor: East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
Telephone: 252-646-7053
Contact Name: Imari Colon
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