Talking With Kids About School Violence

Lucy Daniels Center recommends a three-part approach to discussing school violence with children


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Finding the words to comfort your child when he or she hears about school violence tragedies is never easy. Events such as what happened in Parkland, Florida, Feb. 14, 2018, are terribly upsetting to all of us. It’s hard enough for adults to make sense of such horrific events — just imagine how difficult it is for children to wrap their minds around concepts like violence, evil and death.

Children react in individual ways to scary events depending upon their age and psychological makeup. To help them understand frightening real-life events, such as school violence, wars, terrorist strikes, hurricanes and so forth, the Lucy Daniels Center recommends a three-part approach:

  1. Protecting and supporting
  2. Discussing
  3. Individualizing.

Protecting and Supporting

  • Control access to information. Children 6 years and younger cannot manage information about real dangers without experiencing excessive anxiety. Parents can best support their development by shielding them from scary information as much as possible, including all radio and TV news. Children ages 7-12 benefit from basic information, but may also suffer excessive anxiety if exposed to overly detailed information or images. Teenage children should have fuller access to information and images, but they still require protection from media bombardment, which can increase anxiety for teenagers and adults alike.
  • Provide support and diminish other family stresses. If children learn of a disturbing event,parents should assume that their children will be shaken even if there are no obvious signs. This is a good time to provide increased support. Parental love is the most important source of comfort. There is no adequate substitute for hugs, hot cocoa, a game of Scrabble and verbal reassurances.
  • Regularity is calming for children (and adults). Change — whether positive or negative — tends to produce stress. Parents can reduce controllable sources of family stress by spending more time with their children or deferring an elective surgery, a nonessential overnight business trip or even the adoption of a pet.
  • Maintain parental emotional balance. Children have a sixth sense about how their parents really feel, and they can only feel safe if their parents are feeling safe. Since all parents are concerned by the reality that our schools are no longer safe havens, they must do their best to gain perspective and calm themselves, relying upon trusted people, faith, and stress reducing activities. Parents should restrict what they say in grown-up conversations within children’s hearing, because it if often at those times that parents share their deepest worries.

Discussing

Words can help children master emotions, information and images. Parents should encourage discussions while respecting the preferences of those children who rely upon other means to work out difficult situations. Although children ages 6 and younger should learn as little as possible about school violence, parents should provide simple and reassuring explanations about anything they do learn.

For example, if your 4-year-old asks about school violence (he just might hear about it from friends or siblings), you could say: “A man hurt some children in a school far away. He is now dead, or, the police are taking care of him. Your school is safe and this will not happen here.” Although parents can’t be 100 percent sure that any school is safe, young children should not be exposed to each of life’s remote dangers. There is a time for a bit of exaggerated reassurance, and early childhood is that time.

Children ages 7-12 benefit from more detailed discussions. You should be reassuring, clarifying the rarity of such events and the specific ways that their school keeps children safe. Emphasize your confidence in your children’s teachers and principal. Children of this age are learning the rules of life, and they may have difficulty with events that violate expected order. This is an opportunity to discuss the fact that that not all events in life follow rules or predicable patterns.

It’s unlikely that school-age children will be interested in pondering the unpredictability of life. Such is more likely the concern of teenagers, who are also inclined to want to understand the reasons for unpredictability and the violence in the world. School violence is an opportunity to engage your teen in discussions about larger topics, such as the role of a community in episodes of school violence and factors that lead someone to act violently. You can emphasize and demonstrate the positive actions that an individual can take to increase the order and goodness in the world. In this sense, tragedies can offer parents an important opportunity to help their children grow in their own personal commitment to constructive moral action.

Regardless of your child’s age, you should respect his or her views, even if they differ from your own. And, although you should withhold frightening details from your very young children, with the exception of the extra reassurance for young children, be honest. Distorting facts will shake your child’s confidence in you and cause anxiety. Holding back all the details is a matter of good tact and judgment; don’t confuse protection with a lack of honesty.

You need not wait for your child to raise concerns. A dinner discussion between adults when there is not a preschooler around can provide children with an important opportunity to learn and to join the discussion. Just as adults need to talk to many people, children older than 7 can benefit from varied discussion about frightening current events.


Individualizing

It's important that you make a judgment about how vulnerable each of your children might be to frightening news. Some children react more powerfully to worries than others. There are many reasons that some children are more reactive. For example, children who have had unexpected or traumatic events in their life may react strongly to reminders of life’s unexpected dangers. Also, recent or current stresses in the family increase vulnerability to anxiety.

The signs that a child is excessively affected by news of school violence are very varied. Dreams about dangers occurring in school and excessive questioning about something happening to their school are clear signs of excessive worry. Worries about separation or about the safety of parents are also common reactions of children who are having excessive anxieties.

However, excessive anxiety can take many subtle forms, including various regressive symptoms. In preschoolers, common reactions are sleep difficulties, toileting problems, clinginess and temper tantrums; in school-age children and teens, psychosomatic physical complaints are the norm. Children who are reacting to school violence with such strong reactions may be the kind of child who benefits from more reassurance and stability of family life when a worry crosses their radar. If such extreme reactions to worrisome events continue for more than a month or two, or occur in other situations as well, professional consultation should be considered.

School violence is a painful aspect of our modern life. Although it strikes every parent in a vulnerable place, try to maintain perspective and use this disturbing reality to assist your child in developing protections against excessive anxiety. Violence in all its myriad forms is not likely to go away, but, with your help, your children can be among those working to curb and address these problems in our society.


The Lucy Daniels Center is a nonprofit agency in Cary that promotes the emotional health and well-being of children and families. Visit lucydanielscenter.org to learn more.

This article was originally published in Aug. 1, 2009 but was updated Feb. 15, 2018.

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Cost: $18/resident, $24/nonresident

Where:
Stevens Nature Center/Hemlock Bluffs
2616 Kildaire Farm Rd.
Cary, NC
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Telephone: 919-387-5980
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East Cloud Kungfu hosts a Parent's Night Out event, featuring a safe environment for kids as they about the wide world of kungfu.   Check it out!...

Cost: $25 first child, $20 each additional child

Where:
East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
5655-A Western Blvd
Raleigh, NC  27606
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Sponsor: East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
Telephone: 252-646-7053
Contact Name: Imari Colon
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Join the Studio School of Durham team to sip, tinker, and create on Saturday, November 16th at 7:00pm for this FREE event!  We will provide the food, wine, beer, and non-alcoholic...

Cost: Free

Where:
The Studio School of Durham
1201 W Woodcroft Pkwy
Durham, NC  27713
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Sponsor: The Studio School of Durham
Telephone: 984-377-4502
Contact Name: Danielle Sunde
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The EWFL carries a unique experience in youth football to play in a “big game” atmosphere.  Our games begin in the afternoons on Saturday and play into the evening “under the...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Durham County Stadium
750 Stadium Dr
Durham, NC  27704
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See horses compete and enjoy food trucks, children's activities and more. Admission is free; Saturday evening Grand Prix tickets are $10/person. Proceeds benefit Duke Children's...

Cost: Free

Where:
Gov. James B. Hunt Horse Complex
4601 Trinity Rd.
Raleigh, NC  27607
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