Digital Privacy: Is it OK to Spy on Your Teen?


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Most teenagers think cellphones are a birthright.

Most parents think cellphones are a privilege, not a right.

So how do you and your teen negotiate terms by which both parties are satisfied? And should you “snoop” on your child’s online activity?

Set Guidelines

Two experts with experience on how parents and teens navigate an increasingly digital world say the best way to prevent your teen from choosing to sneak around — or to prevent you from needing to spy on your teen — is to outline expectations with your child before you give out that first phone.

Katie Overcash of Charlotte, a licensed clinical social worker who counsels teens, doesn’t like the word “snoop.”

“It has a negative connotation,” she says. “It means you are keeping tabs on your child’s digital use behind their back.”

She says her “whole theme is give and take” when it comes to dealing with children getting their first phone.

“You need to start out pretty strict,” Overcash says. If children use their phones unrestricted until they are 15 or 16, “it will be a problem” if a parent finds out the phone is being used irresponsibly, she says. “As kids get older and show that they are responsible, you can back off a little bit.”

Kate Paquin of Apex, a trained family and teen coach, agrees that parents should set guidelines early.

“The key is to establish strict guidelines, just like you would if they were driving a car or going out with their friends,” she says. “The guidelines can be loosened later on, but they must be set from the get-go.”

Overcash says compromise and finding a middle ground is crucial. “Parents can’t be on the other end of the phone,” she says. “It’s not appropriate and not doable. You have to figure out that sweet spot.”

Paquin, who has three teenagers, a son, 17, and two daughters, 15 and 14, says her children first got a phone because they were involved in sports activities and needed to let her know when they were ready to be picked up.

That was the case for Wendy Emerson of Tobaccoville, vice president of business services at Forsyth Technical Community College in Winston-Salem. She has two daughters, 11 and 17, and gave her oldest daughter a cellphone when she was 12 so she could call when her athletic practice was finished for the day. She did something that both Overcash and Paquin say is a good idea — ensured that her child’s first phone was only able to make calls, not facilitate texting or app downloads.

“When my daughter was 14, we got her a smartphone where she was able to send texts and have apps,” Emerson says. “But we were pretty restrictive. The only apps she could have were games.”

Emerson says she allowed her daughter to add Twitter and Facebook in the past year.

“She asked a couple of times why she couldn’t have more things on her phone,” Emerson says. “We had a very honest and direct discussion about it. She knows at any time my husband and I can sit down with her and go through her phone.”

Emerson says her daughter uses Snapchat and recently had to delete her Instagram account.

“I said, look at pictures your friends have posted on Instagram. For example, there was a picture of a friend holding a volleyball trophy. I said, ‘What do you see in that picture?’ I told her what I saw was that the trophy clearly showed the girl’s name, the school she attended and when she played volleyball. Anyone could take that information and find that girl.”

Emerson handed down her oldest daughter’s first phone to her second daughter when she was 9, but with the same rules.


Education is Key

Overcash says parents should know all of the passwords for their teen’s social media accounts. But that is not enough.

“Parents need to educate themselves about social media and apps,” she says. “Find out what sites your children are using and find out how the sites work. Talk to your kids. Say ‘What can you do on here?’”

She explains that teens’ brains are not completely developed, especially the part that understands long-term decisions. “Sometimes kids post something and get in trouble for that,” she says. Maybe they are kicked off a sports team, or get sent to the principal’s office. They don’t completely understand what has happened.”

Overcash says in those cases parents should “sit down with their teen, and ask them what kind of message [they] were trying to put out there, and what [they] thought people would get from it?”

Paquin, who teaches a class called “Social Media for Parents of Teens and Preteens,” agrees that parents need to be educated. She sets strict guidelines on her children’s phone use.

“Each night at 9 p.m., the kids hand the phone to me for the night,” she says. “I don’t want them staying awake using the phone.”

She also doesn’t allow phones in restaurants or at the dinner table.

Monitoring Your Child Online

Know your teen’s passwords, advises Paquin. “If I can’t log in to one my children’s phones, the phone is taken away,” says Paquin. She cautions that many teens know how to make multiple accounts for one app. “Your child may have one Instagram for their parents to see and another account for their friends.”

She also advises: Be aware of what your teens are doing on any device that connects to the Internet, not just their smartphone; put Internet restrictions in your home; and keep the family computer in an open space.

Parents also need to use caution when using what Paquin calls “the parents’ social media” — Facebook.

“Parents should make profiles in Facebook private,” she says. “Your pictures of young children, vacation pictures, can be prime ground for pedophiles.”

Anne Wooten Green is a freelance writer based in Winston-Salem.
 


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Kik — An instant messaging app kids can use if they can’t text on their phone. Take a look at the history and who they are “kik-ing.” Kik users can also send photos.

Snapchat — An app that claims pictures posted only last 10 seconds. But screen shots can be taken of the photo and shared on other devices. SnapChat users can also send videos.

Ask.fm — A page that allows others to ask questions anonymously. Most parents don’t know their kids have an account, because they can use different user names and link them to an Instagram account. This page is where most cyberbullying takes place.

Whisper — A site that encourages users to share secrets. Kids post pictures and share secrets anonymously, as well as chat with other “whisperers.” Whisper reveals a user’s location.

Swipe — An app that allows users to create usernames and post pictures anonymously. It accesses all of the contacts on your child’s phone and then shares those pictures with their circle and their friends’ circles without ever knowing who is posting the picture. Paquin says Swipe “is a bully’s dream and a pedophile’s hunting ground.”

CocoPPa — An app that changes the looks of icons on a device. It can make the icons look like cute images and games, while hiding the real apps a teen might have on his or her phone.
 


Texting Acronyms You Need to Know

When your child sends a text, you may not have a clue of what it means. Here are examples of acronyms published by USA Today that parents need to be on the lookout for. See the complete list at usatoday.com/story/tech/columnist/komando/2015/01/02/texting-acronyms-parents/21098099.


Your Kid Has Something to Hide

CD9: Short for Code 9, which means parents are around.

KPC: Keeping Parents Clueless

PAL: Parents Are Listening

PAW: Parents Are Watching

POS: Parent Over Shoulder


Your Child’s Personal Information or Safety is at Risk

ASL: Age/Sex/Location

F2F: Face to Face (asking for a meeting or video chat)

MOOS: Member of the Opposite Sex

RU/18: Are You Over 18?

WYCM: Will You Call Me?


Your Child Shouldn’t be Involved

1174: Invited to a Wild Party

GNOC: Get Naked on Cam

IWSN: I Want Sex Now

NIFOC: Nude in Front of the Computer

TDTM: Talk Dirty to Me



Sites That Inform

Here are some websites recommended by Katie Overcash and Kate Paquin to educate parents. Some of the sites also offer services to monitor smartphone activity:

internetsafety101.org

afamilycoach.com

netlingo.com

staysafeonline.org

teensafe.com

cybersitter.com

mmguardian.com

Also, many phone service providers such as AT&T, Sprint and Verizon offer services you can add (for a fee) that monitor smartphone activity.

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Ages 18 months-5 years with special needs enjoy educational and therapeutic toys with caregiver. 

Cost: Free

Where:
Flaherty Park Community Center
1226 N. White St.
Wake Forest, NC  27587
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Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
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Want to get inside Historic Yates Mill? Join us for a half-hour tour (starting at 1:00, 1:30, 2:00, 2:30 & 3:00 p.m.) to view the main power drive and milling machinery while exploring the...

Cost: $5/Adult, 4$/Senior (60+), $3/Child (7-16), 6&Younger Free

Where:
Historic Yates Mill County Park
4620 Lake Wheeler Road
Raleigh, NC  27603
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Sponsor: Historic Yates Mill County Park
Telephone: 919-856-6675
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Ages 11-15 use markers to learn the basic stroke sequences that comprise modern calligraphic lettering. Register online. Choose course #124716.

Cost: $23/resident, $30/nonresident

Where:
Cary Arts Center
101 Dry Ave.
Cary, NC  27511
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When a tornado whisks Dorothy over the rainbow to the land of Oz, the Kansas farm girl sets off on a magical journey that requires brains, heart, and courage. With Scarecrow, Tinman, and Lion...

Cost: $8-$15

Where:
The Clayton Center
111 E. Second St.
Clayton, NC  27520
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Sponsor: Carolina Youth Theatre
Telephone: 919-553-1737
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East Cloud Kungfu hosts a Parent's Night Out event, featuring a safe environment for kids as they about the wide world of kungfu.   Check it out!...

Cost: $25 first child, $20 each additional child

Where:
East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
5655-A Western Blvd
Raleigh, NC  27606
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Sponsor: East Cloud Kungfu, LLC
Telephone: 252-646-7053
Contact Name: Imari Colon
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When Judah Ben-Hur survives an almost certain death sentence for a crime he did not commit, he begins a quest for vengeance. Angry at God and man alike, he embarks on a journey toward relief and...

Cost: $5-$20

Where:
Spiritual Twist Productions
1250 Aversboro Road
Garner, NC  27529
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Telephone: (919) 977-1976
Contact Name: Kathy MacDonald
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Performances: Thursday July 25th at 7:30pm Friday July 26th at 7:30pm Saturday July 27th at 7:30pm Sunday July 28th matinee at 2:00pm $15.00 Advanced Adult General Admission $12.00 Advanced Student...

Cost: $8-$18

Where:
Cedar Ridge High School
1125 New Grady Brown School Rd.
Hillsborough, NC  27278
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Sponsor: Orange Community Players
Telephone: 919-619-5856
Contact Name: Orange Community Players
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Enjoy a movie under the stars and play games at 7:15 before the movie begins.

Cost: Free

Where:
E. Carroll Joyner Park
701 Harris Rd.
Wake Forest, NC  27587
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Join us during National Moth Week to observe some of our night-flying neighbors – MOTHS! Discover how to attract moths and their caterpillars in your backyard, hear about some of their...

Cost: $10 ($9 Members): No Fee for Accompanying Adult

Where:
North Carolina Botanical Garden - Growing Classroom
100 Old Mason Farm Road
Chapel Hill, NC  27517
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Sponsor: NCBG
Telephone: 919-962-2887
Contact Name: Mike Dunn
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