Communicating Effectively with Your Toddler or Preschooler


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On Oct. 28, 2014, Carolina Parent hosted a live Facebook chat with the Montessori Children's House of Durham on how to effectively communicate with your toddler or preschooler. Here's a transcript of the conversation:

Carolina Parent Magazine:
 Welcome to the Carolina Parent and the Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited "Are They Listening? Communicating Effectively with Your Toddler/Preschooler" LIVE Facebook chat! Today we'll be talking about toddler behavior with Cynthia Hughey, Assistant Head of School, former teacher and parent with 30+ years of Montessori experience, and Lyn Dickinson, current parent of a Montessori student.

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Welcome, experts! Onto the first question: What to do when your child has a melt-down in a store, say asking for candy or a present.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Good morning! We are excited to be joining you.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: We are also joined this morning by Kelsey Spaulding, teacher of our Summer Parent-Toddler Montessori Exploration class.
Carolina Parent Magazine: Welcome, Kelsey!
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Meltdowns are very normal for this age. Stay neutral, and keep your emotions in check. You can give the child (no more than) two if/then choices. (You may want to present your preferred choice second.) Also be sure you can accept either choice. For instance, "If you continue crying, we will go home. Or you can calm your body and we will finish shopping." Be prepared to take your child home, even if this means leaving your groceries in the aisle.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: It is also crucial to observe your child's routines carefully. Could this meltdown be related to tiredness or hunger? Let that inform your schedule next time.

mchd-facebook-chat-2.jpgMegan Toth Haven: Hi there! Any tips for dealing with a 17-month old's tantrums? It's so hard before they can communicate (and you can reason with them!), and we're in the middle of daily battles to get him to do anything that he doesn't want to do. Thanks!
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Thanks for your great question, Megan! First, acknowledge and identify his feelings. For example, "I see that you are feeling angry right now," or "I see you want to keep playing, but It's time to go. I can see you are feeling sad about that."
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Offering choices is another helpful tool. See if our previous comments about that might help.
Carolina Parent Magazine: Great question, Megan Toth Haven!

Carolina Parent Magazine: Rebecca from Morrisville wrote in: "How long is the attention span of a two- or three- or four-year old? For example, if you want your child to follow a command, say clean up after you play with your toys, what's the age-appropriate way to do that? I've heard that at certain ages, their concentration can only follow one or two steps."
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: It is true that attention span develops as the child grows. One of the obstacles to concentration that our modern world presents is screen time. Current research demonstrates that children under 2 should have no screen time as it significantly undermines their ability to develop a healthy attention span.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Make sure your have your child's full attention, and give only one step directions first, until you are confident they can follow that.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Then you can follow up with two step directions, such as "Bring the red block and the toy dog to me."

Carolina Parent Magazine: What's the best way to discipline a toddler?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: What an important and broad topic! There are some valuable principles to keep in mind.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: First, remember to treat your toddler like a person. The goal is not to "get" your child to do something, but rather to develop and maintain and trusting, respectful relationship.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Clear communication of expectations and boundaries is essential. Follow through with the limits you have stated so your child knows what to expect and trusts you.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: It is also important that you and your parenting partner have discussed these ideas before you need them and are modeling consistent behavior.

Beth Poland Shugg: When and why do 2-step directions become important? What is an example of a 2-step task a 2-, 3- and 4-year-old should be capable of?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Try to incorporate in your daily life multi-step directions. For instance, for a 2 year old during during diaper changes, you can ask the child to get her diaper and the wipes (2 steps).
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: An example for 2 step directions for a 3 year old could be to set the table by putting out the placemats first, putting out napkins second.
Carolina Parent Magazine: Thank you, Beth Poland Shugg, for the question.

meet-the-experts-revised-2.jpgErika Ripley: What signs might one watch for to gauge whether our communication style/level is in sync with a child's developmental stage/level?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Hi Erika! Thanks for joining us. That's a great question! Keen observation is essential to be sure you aren't talking "over" or "under" your child's level.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: What do you observe? Do you notice the child's response is frustrated? Look for signs of engagement, such as responsiveness, eye contact, and interest.
Carolina Parent Magazine: Great question, Erika Ripley!

Carolina Parent Magazine: We just received this question from a parent: "Any tips on how to encourage a 3 year old to NOT quit an activity when it gets "hard"? Specifically she was using scissors and was having trouble cutting the template we had. She expressed frustration and then said she didn't want to do it anymore."
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: We experience this kind of situation in our classrooms. One approach is to offer the child a lesson. Sometimes slowing the process down and demonstrating clearly enables success.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: However, sometimes, the child's frustration should be honored and you can come back to this task at another time.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Be aware at this age that the process is much more important that the product.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Another detail to consider is the materials -- does the child have actual tools that do the job? Do the scissors actually cut?

Carolina Parent Magazine: When should I stop redirecting my child's attention and just say "no"?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: The time is now. Be confident! Distraction doesn't teach appropriate behavior. Children need simple, truthful, empathetic, but direct responses, especially when they are testing and learning limits. The parent who confronts situations honestly, acknowledging the child's point of view and probable displeasure may worry about being the "bad guy" but this will be the "trusted, genuine guy", the brave person the child feels closest to and safest with.

Carolina Parent Magazine: What are warning signs of a toddler's language delay?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: First, is your child communicating at all? (Communication in this includes verbal cues and nonverbal cues.)
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Next, consider developmental milestones. For instances, is your two year old still limited to one word questions or statements? Can he follow simple instructions? If you are concerned, act early and talk with your pediatrician.

Carolina Parent Magazine: Our 2-year-old is shy and we're worried about whether she can handle preschool. What should we do?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: It is important to find a preschool that understands differences in temperament. For instance, our school seeks to develop a community in the classroom that respects and nurtures each individual child.
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Also, it is natural for a young child to be attached to her primary caregivers. It may take a while for her to feel safe in a new environment, but trust that the process works and she will bond with her teachers. It is also important that you communicate your trust and confidence to the child.

Carolina Parent Magazine: How do I get past my toddler's endless "no, no, no's"?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Realize that it is normal, appropriate and good for a child to say no because it means the child is becoming his own person and identifying his own separate ideas. This is a good thing! Try to phrase your requests as statements, not questions. Watch your tone in this. This will help limit their opportunities to say no. For instance, say "It's time for bed. Come upstairs with me" rather than "Are you ready for bed?" or "It's time for bed, ok?"
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Don't give them a choice unless they really have a choice in the matter. Also, only give them 2 choices, and try to give them your preferred choice second.

Carolina Parent Magazine: My toddler won't sit down and eat for more than a few minutes. I don't have time to make pin-worthy presentation of snacks. Any ideas on how to get him to sit?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Parents in our Toddler classes frequently ask this kind of question. In a neutral moment, explain that you expect each member of the family to sit while eating at mealtime. (Be sure every member of the family actually is modeling this.) If your child gets up while eating, remind them of this expectation. If they do it again, you can say "I see you are standing up. You must be finished eating. I'll take your plate away."
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: If they are hungry, remind them that they will be eating again soon. Make sure you provide another snack (and another opportunity for success) within a couple of hours.

Lauren Isaacs: What should I do when my toddler has a fit because I used the wrong color bowl?
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: Acknowledge the child's preference. (Feeling understood is a powerful thing.)
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: If the item is available, you can acknowledge the child's feelings by saying something like "I see you want the red bowl but I gave you the blue one."
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: On the other hand, if the preferred object (in this case, the red bowl) was not available, state that clearly to the child and give her 2 new choices.

Carolina Parent Magazine: Thank you so much Cynthia, Lyn and Kelsey!
Montessori Children's House of Durham - AMS & SACS Accredited: We have enjoyed discussing these important topics! If you have further questions we can help with, feel free to call us at (919) 489-9045 or visit mchdurham.org. If you are ready to consider your child's toddler or preschool education, we would welcome the opportunity to share more with you.
Carolina Parent Magazine: Thanks so much for your time! Wonderful chat, great answers!

And here is one question that we didn't get to in the chat, but that our experts had an answer for:

How do I get my toddler to start talking?
There are 2 key principles. The first is to consider how often and what kind of language you use. Speak to your child often, using real vocabulary, clearly enunciated. Remember that they are absorbing their whole environment, including their verbal environment. Speak to your child before they can developmentally speak back, and read together regularly. The second principle is to ensure that you offer the child opportunities to speak for himself. Remove language obstacles, like pacifiers, when possible. When your child points to something she wants, give her the language for it and encourage her to use it. Provide real, sensory experiences as these are the foundation for language development. Describe what you see, feel, and experience together.

Additional Resources:
Finally, we'd like to mention another valuable resource for parents of infants and toddlers to which we refer frequently in our Toddler classrooms and Parent Education. janetlansbury.com is an amazing resource of respectful parenting practices. Her books "No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame" and "Elevating Child Care" ?are incredible and dovetail so well with the Montessori philosophy and child development research.

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USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
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Lights is a half-mile walking trail that leads viewers through a series of immersive light installations featuring  honeycombs, vines, crystals, and other natural features integrated into the...

Cost: Free

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
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Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
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Hounded by Death, the character of Everybody desperately seeks out everyone and everything they know in hope of finding something meaningful to take to the grave. These 90 minutes of theatrical...

Cost: Ticket prices start at $15

Where:
PlayMakers' Repertory Company
120 Country Club Rd
Chapel Hill, NC  27599
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Telephone: 919-962-7529

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Summer Garden Camps at the JCRA invite your child to investigate nature during half or full day camps.  Campers tend to the garden, harvest vegetables, catch insects, and create crafts from the...

Cost: Varies depending on camp week

Where:
JC Raulston Arboretum
4415 Beryl Rd
Raleigh, NC  27606
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Sponsor: JC Raulston Arboretum
Telephone: (919) 513-7011
Contact Name: Elizabeth Overcash
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Amongst the ancient oak trees is the heart of Raleigh. We'll help you see the forest for the trees and all its magic splendor. Tourist, local, or new to town, this is a lively small group activity...

Cost: $11

Where:
Downtown
500 S Salisbury St
Raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: Let's Roam
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: Kelly
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Kindermusik is a research-based early childhood curriculum that includes 45-minute classroom lessons with materials and resources that encourages parental involvement . Research has linked...

Cost: $70/month

Where:
Hope Community Building
2080 E Williams St
Hope Community Building, Fuquay Varina Room
Apex/Holly Springs, NC  27539
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Telephone: 191-990-25432
Contact Name: Leigh Hamm
Website »

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Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
Website »

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Lights is a half-mile walking trail that leads viewers through a series of immersive light installations featuring  honeycombs, vines, crystals, and other natural features integrated into the...

Cost: Free

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
Website »

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Skate on an ice trail or free skate on 17,000 sq. ft of ice. Located in the Upper Pond of the Whitewater Center, the skating environment features three distinct programming areas and an on-ice...

Cost: 20

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
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Spanish Alive is providing Family Spanish classes starting in January! Join us to learn Spanish as an entire family in an immersive, fun environment. Our teachers are trained Spanish educators and...

Cost: $75-$216

Where:
Spanish Alive
156 E. Chatham St
Cary, NC
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Short class advertising for local class   I am a mom and retired CPA who is passionate about teaching teens about the high cost of their choices. I teach a fun, interactive "Game of Life meets...

Cost: $225

Where:
Hope Community Church- Apex
2080 E Williams Street
Apex, NC  27539
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Sponsor: Beyond Personal Finance
Contact Name: Charla McKinley
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I am a mom and retired CPA who is passionate about teaching teens about the high cost of their choices. I teach a fun, interactive "Game of Life meets Dave Ramsey" class that has teens experience...

Cost: $225

Where:
Hope Community Church- Apex
2080 E Williams Street
Apex, NC  27539
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Sponsor: Beyond Personal Finance
Contact Name: Charla McKinley
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Short class advertising for local class   I am a mom and retired CPA who is passionate about teaching teens about the high cost of their choices. I teach a fun, interactive "Game of Life meets...

Cost: $225

Where:
Hope Community Church- Apex
2080 E Williams Street
Apex, NC  27539
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Sponsor: Beyond Personal Finance
Contact Name: Charla McKinley
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Azevedo Family Psychology and Kym Azevedo will host an Art for Life group each Thursday from 5:30-6:30PM beginning January 16 and running through March 26. This group is completely free, kid...

Cost: FREE

Where:
1903 N. Harrison Ave
Suite 201
Cary, NC  27513
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Sponsor: Azevedo Family Psychology
Telephone: 919-624-9568
Contact Name: Kym Azevedo
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Explore astronomy, biology, architectural and engineering principles, technology and so much more through our hands-on, play-based activities. Spend an evening with your preschooler, experiencing...

Cost: free

Where:
Saint Raphael Preschool
5801 Falls of Neuse Rd.
Raleigh, NC  27609
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Sponsor: Saint Rapahel Preschool
Telephone: 919-865-5725
Contact Name: Katie Mistele
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The goal of the How To Talk So Kids Will Listen Group workshop is to help you communicate more effectively with children.   In each session of the workshop you'll be introduced to an...

Cost: $12.95 materials fee

Where:
Wildflower School at Belle Vie Farm
3100 Damascus Church Road
Chapel Hill, NC  27516
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Sponsor: Wildflower School at Belle Vie Farm
Telephone: 919-260-6859
Contact Name: Shelley Welch
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Hounded by Death, the character of Everybody desperately seeks out everyone and everything they know in hope of finding something meaningful to take to the grave. These 90 minutes of theatrical...

Cost: Ticket prices start at $15

Where:
PlayMakers' Repertory Company
120 Country Club Rd
Chapel Hill, NC  27599
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Telephone: 919-962-7529

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Forget tourist-filled museums, make your own memories with a photo scavenger hunt tour in Raleigh! On a Let’s Roam scavenger hunt, you and your team will work together to wander throughout...

Cost: $11

Where:
500 S Salisbury St
raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: Let's Roam
Website »

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Amongst the ancient oak trees is the heart of Raleigh. We'll help you see the forest for the trees and all its magic splendor. Tourist, local, or new to town, this is a lively small group activity...

Cost: $11

Where:
Downtown
500 S Salisbury St
Raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: Let's Roam
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: Kelly
Website »

More information

Summer Garden Camps at the JCRA invite your child to investigate nature during half or full day camps.  Campers tend to the garden, harvest vegetables, catch insects, and create crafts from the...

Cost: Varies depending on camp week

Where:
JC Raulston Arboretum
4415 Beryl Rd
Raleigh, NC  27606
View map »


Sponsor: JC Raulston Arboretum
Telephone: (919) 513-7011
Contact Name: Elizabeth Overcash
Website »

More information

Kindermusik is a research-based early childhood curriculum that includes 45-minute classroom lessons with materials and resources that encourages parental involvement . Research has linked...

Cost: $70/month

Where:
Hope Community Building
2080 E Williams St
Hope Community Building, Fuquay Varina Room
Apex/Holly Springs, NC  27539
View map »


Telephone: 191-990-25432
Contact Name: Leigh Hamm
Website »

More information

Skate on an ice trail or free skate on 17,000 sq. ft of ice. Located in the Upper Pond of the Whitewater Center, the skating environment features three distinct programming areas and an on-ice...

Cost: 20

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
View map »


Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
Website »

More information

Lights is a half-mile walking trail that leads viewers through a series of immersive light installations featuring  honeycombs, vines, crystals, and other natural features integrated into the...

Cost: Free

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
View map »


Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
Website »

More information

Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
Website »

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Join us for Family Trivia Night!  Test your knowledge of pop culture, books, music and more. Pizza and drinks provided.  Call or stop by to register: 919-245-2532. Best for kids ages 8 and up...

Cost: Free

Where:
Orange County Main Library
137 W Margaret Ln
Hillsborough, NC  27278
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Sponsor: Orange County Public Library
Telephone: 919-245-2539
Contact Name: Libbie Hough
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Art Walk featuring local galleries and artist studios in historic downtown Hillsborough on the Last Friday of every month (no Art Walk in December).

Cost: FREE

Where:
Downtown Hillsborough (multiple locations)
102 N. Churton St.
Hillsborough, NC  27278
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Sponsor: Hillsborough Arts Council
Telephone: 919-643-2500
Contact Name: Torey Mishoe
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Kids! Are you sick of the Winter? Enjoy a Summer's night at Peach Road Center. Enjoy a Summer-like evening with us. Get into the luau spirit and play summer games!  

Cost: Free

Where:
Peach Road Community Center
911 Ileagnes Rd
Raleigh, NC  27603
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Sponsor: City or Raleigh Parks, Recreation & Cultural Resources
Telephone: 919-807-8545
Contact Name: Christy Famolare

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Hounded by Death, the character of Everybody desperately seeks out everyone and everything they know in hope of finding something meaningful to take to the grave. These 90 minutes of theatrical...

Cost: Ticket prices start at $15

Where:
PlayMakers' Repertory Company
120 Country Club Rd
Chapel Hill, NC  27599
View map »


Telephone: 919-962-7529

More information

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Forget tourist-filled museums, make your own memories with a photo scavenger hunt tour in Raleigh! On a Let’s Roam scavenger hunt, you and your team will work together to wander throughout...

Cost: $11

Where:
500 S Salisbury St
raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: Let's Roam
Website »

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Join our bird enthusiast, Vernon, for an easy walk while looking and listening for our feathered friends. Discover different types of birds and their habitats.​ No preregistration required. Meet...

Cost: FREE

Where:
Lake Crabtree County Park
1400 Aviation Pkwy.
Morrisville, NC  27560
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Sponsor: Lake Crabtree County Park
Telephone: 919-460-3355
Contact Name: Carol Cunningham
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How did people predict the weather before The Weather Channel, and can animals really help? Come to the Finley Center to put our colonial weather proverbs to the test and make a pop-up woodchuck...

Cost: For all ages; FREE. Registration is not required

Where:
Historic Yates Mill County Park
4620 Lake Wheeler Rd
Raleigh, NC  27603
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Telephone: 919-856-6675
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Amongst the ancient oak trees is the heart of Raleigh. We'll help you see the forest for the trees and all its magic splendor. Tourist, local, or new to town, this is a lively small group activity...

Cost: $11

Where:
Downtown
500 S Salisbury St
Raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: Let's Roam
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: Kelly
Website »

More information

Summer Garden Camps at the JCRA invite your child to investigate nature during half or full day camps.  Campers tend to the garden, harvest vegetables, catch insects, and create crafts from the...

Cost: Varies depending on camp week

Where:
JC Raulston Arboretum
4415 Beryl Rd
Raleigh, NC  27606
View map »


Sponsor: JC Raulston Arboretum
Telephone: (919) 513-7011
Contact Name: Elizabeth Overcash
Website »

More information

Kindermusik is a research-based early childhood curriculum that includes 45-minute classroom lessons with materials and resources that encourages parental involvement . Research has linked...

Cost: $70/month

Where:
Hope Community Building
2080 E Williams St
Hope Community Building, Fuquay Varina Room
Apex/Holly Springs, NC  27539
View map »


Telephone: 191-990-25432
Contact Name: Leigh Hamm
Website »

More information

Join us to meet the educators, see the farm and learn more about our Preschool for 3-5 year olds and Camps for 4-10 year olds. We'll have a campfire for some warmth but please come dressed for the...

Cost: 0

Where:
Longleaf Forest School
4826 Mt. Moriah Road
Durhan, NC  27707
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Sponsor: Longleaf Forest School
Contact Name: Tara Lawson
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Chinese New Year Festival, also Lunar New Year Festival. Largest public event in the Triangle. MAIN STAGE has vocal and orchestral music, folk dance, Lion and Dragon dances, martial arts, and comic...

Cost: $10 entry at door, military and senior discounts, kids<6 free

Where:
Dorton Arena, NC State Fairgrounds
1025 Blue Ridge Road
Enter Gate 1,2,4,5,11
Raleigh, NC  27607
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Sponsor: NC Triangle Area Chinese American Society
Contact Name: Michael, Shin
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Chinese New Year Festival or Lunar New Year Festival, largest public event in the Triangle. MAIN STAGE with musical and dance performances, Lion Dance Dragon Dance, martial arts, comic skits emceed...

Cost: $10 entry at door, military and senior discounts, kids<6 free

Where:
Dorton Arena, NC State Fairgrounds
1025 Blue Ridge Road
Enter Gate 1,2,4,5,11
Raleigh, NC  27607
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Sponsor: NC Triangle Area Chinese American Society
Contact Name: Michael, Shin
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Skate on an ice trail or free skate on 17,000 sq. ft of ice. Located in the Upper Pond of the Whitewater Center, the skating environment features three distinct programming areas and an on-ice...

Cost: 20

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
View map »


Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
Website »

More information

Lights is a half-mile walking trail that leads viewers through a series of immersive light installations featuring  honeycombs, vines, crystals, and other natural features integrated into the...

Cost: Free

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
View map »


Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
Website »

More information

Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
View map »


Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
Website »

More information

Spanish Alive is providing Family Spanish classes starting in January! Join us to learn Spanish as an entire family in an immersive, fun environment. Our teachers are trained Spanish educators and...

Cost: $75-$216

Where:
Spanish Alive
156 E. Chatham St
Cary, NC
View map »


Website »

More information

Did you know that Disney, Netflix, Google and NASA, just to name a few, are all using Python? Python can be used for creating web applications, automation, programming robots and artificial...

Cost: Free: registration required

Where:
, NC


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FEB. 1, 2020 | 1 – 4 P.M. | BLUE JAY POINT COUNTY PARK Spend a winter afternoon getting to know Blue Jay Point County Park at our Winter Open House. Whether you’re a regular visitor or have...

Cost: Free

Where:
Blue Jay Point County Park
3200 Pleasant Union Church Road
Raleigh, NC  27614
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Telephone: 919-870-4330
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Hounded by Death, the character of Everybody desperately seeks out everyone and everything they know in hope of finding something meaningful to take to the grave. These 90 minutes of theatrical...

Cost: Ticket prices start at $15

Where:
PlayMakers' Repertory Company
120 Country Club Rd
Chapel Hill, NC  27599
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Telephone: 919-962-7529

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Come on out to support the NC State Gymnastics team as they take on North Carolina in a RED out on February 1st! The first 300 fans in attendance will receive an exclusive red NC State Gymnastics...

Cost: $3-$7

Where:
Reynolds Collisuem
2411 Dunn Ave.
Raleigh , NC  27607
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Come on out to support the NC State Gymnastics team as they take on North Carolina in a RED out on February 1st! The first 300 fans in attendance will receive an exclusive red NC State Gymnastics...

Cost: $3-$7

Where:
Reynolds Collisuem
2411 Dunn Ave.
Raleigh , NC  27607
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Hounded by Death, the character of Everybody desperately seeks out everyone and everything they know in hope of finding something meaningful to take to the grave. These 90 minutes of theatrical...

Cost: Ticket prices start at $15

Where:
PlayMakers' Repertory Company
120 Country Club Rd
Chapel Hill, NC  27599
View map »


Telephone: 919-962-7529

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