Building Empathy, Respect and Kindness in Kids

Expert tips for parents as their children navigate the social and emotional journey of childhood.


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Raising children involves more complexity; more stress and anxiety; and more need for trust, communication, and collaborative partnerships than anything else we do in our lives. During the many ups and downs and twists and turns of the parenting journey, it is important to remember that building empathy, respect and kindness in our children from the earliest ages is just as important as reading acquisition, math problem-solving and academic skill-building.

Based on the many lessons we’ve both learned in our times as teachers and school leaders, we offer these three considerations for parents as their children navigate the social and emotional journey of childhood and adolescence.


1. The Marathon vs. the Sprint — and Remembering the Finish Line

One big difference between adults and children involves perspective. Most of the time, we adults have it, while it’s something naturally missing in children. A friendship changes suddenly, a “first love” concludes painfully, someone behaves thoughtlessly or even cruelly — the accumulation of all of those common, difficult moments of childhood helped give us our mature, big-picture perspective as adults. However, for our children first encountering these crises, there’s often no careful consideration of the future or any bigger picture; there is simply only an acute awareness of the painful present.

In these moments — when those we love most in this world are inconsolable, devastated or hopeless, and we are sorely tempted to abandon our hard-earned, big-picture, adult perspective — we must remind ourselves that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint. Doing everything possible to ensure a child is happy every moment of his/her life is as unrealistic for us as it is detrimental to his/her future. Our response to our child’s moments of heartbreak or sadness ought to be loving and compassionate, but we must remain ever-mindful that our ultimate parenting “finish line” comes only when our child becomes an adult who can independently, joyfully and resiliently lead a meaningful life with purpose and love. That ought to be our chief goal as parents, not immediately fixing each unhappy moment.


2. Question Marks Are Often Better Than Periods and Exclamation Points

During those inevitable moments of heartbreak or sadness, how do we parents respond? One option employed by some parents is to attempt to impose the missing perspective on the perspective-less child: “Sweetheart, calm down. I’m sure they didn’t mean it,” or “This happens to lots of other people, too,” or “It’s not a big deal … not something to get so upset over.” On the other end of the spectrum, some parents may immediately adopt or even amplify the child’s point of view: “I can’t believe [he/she] did that! That is not acceptable, and I’m calling [his/her parents/the school] right now to address this immediately!

Rather than either of these approaches, often the best response to children during difficult moments involves lots of open questions that seek to discern both facts and feelings. “What, exactly, did [he/she] say or do?” “What happened beforehand and afterward?” “Did you see or hear this yourself, or did you learn about it from someone else?” “Why do you think it happened?” “Do other people … teachers or friends … know what happened, and what do they seem to think about it?” “What do you think ought to happen about this?” “What would make you feel better about this situation?” Questions show you care and are not dismissive. They may help your child take necessary steps to process and to better understand what is upsetting them, and they may even begin to help you both discern a positive path forward.


3. Practice Makes Permanent

Unlike, say, math — where the school introduces concepts and parents reinforce them at home — empathy, respect and kindness are best learned when intentionally instilled at home and then vigorously reinforced at school. Parents and schools, alike, should give children plenty of opportunities to consider different perspectives, to understand how reasonable people can disagree, to imagine what it must be like to “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes,” and to help and to serve others. And just as it’s best to thoroughly practice any academic concept long before it shows up on the test, it’s far easier to routinely practice and reflect on empathy, respect and kindness before their limits are tested in the inevitable difficult social and emotional moments of childhood and adolescence.

We all hear about the devastating ramifications of bullying, and it is not to be taken lightly. However, real bullying is a very specific and narrowly-defined type of behavior involving intentional cruelty where the chief purpose is to create an imbalance of power. We must be cautious not to equate bullying with all unkind behavior, as bullying requires a very specific response by adults. A far more common reason for unkind behavior among children involves a failure of empathy — an offense is given and then the aggrieved victim immediately attributes the worst motives to the offender and responds in kind. Allies get involved, tears might be shed, meanness and retributions continue and can escalate without intervention. A child who has regularly practiced empathy — and for whom its value has been intentionally reinforced both at home and at school — is far more likely to better navigate such difficult moments, to help diffuse them and to help his/her friends navigate such moments, too.


In Conclusion

About the only thing more complicated than navigating the social and emotional experiences of childhood is being a parent who must lovingly help his/her child through all of those moments. Engaging with other parents, partnering with teachers and schools, and exchanging ideas like those we’ve shared in this blog can all help us on our journey. For more extensive discussion — and, frankly, far more wisdom than either of us can offer — we encourage you to join us as St. Timothy’s School and The Raleigh School co-sponsor an evening with bestselling author and award-winning psychologist Dr. Michael Thompson at 7 p.m. on Feb. 6 when he shares "Best Friends/Worst Enemies: Understanding the Social Lives of Children." This event will be held at The Raleigh School and is free and open to the public. (Register here.)

 

Tim Tinnesz is a father to three children and Head of School at St. Timothy’s School. St. Timothy’s is an Episcopal preparatory school for pre-K through grade 8 that emphasizes both challenging academics and a commitment to making a positive difference in our community and world.

Bud Lichtenstein is a father to two adult sons and Head of School at The Raleigh School. The Raleigh School is a cooperative community of children, parents and teachers from preschool through grade 5 that fosters a love of learning in an atmosphere of challenge, inquiry and respect.

 

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500 S Salisbury St
raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: Let's Roam
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Amongst the ancient oak trees is the heart of Raleigh. We'll help you see the forest for the trees and all its magic splendor. Tourist, local, or new to town, this is a lively small group activity...

Cost: $11

Where:
Downtown
500 S Salisbury St
Raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: Let's Roam
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: Kelly
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It's your last chance to catch the Wolfpack at home this season! Help RED OUT Duke by wearing your favorite RED NC State Gear to the meet. The first 300 fans will receive an exclusive RED OUT...

Cost: FREE

Where:
Willis R. Casey Aquatic Center
2611 Cates Ave.
Raleigh, NC  27695
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Kindermusik is a research-based early childhood curriculum that includes 45-minute classroom lessons with materials and resources that encourages parental involvement . Research has linked...

Cost: $70/month

Where:
Hope Community Building
2080 E Williams St
Hope Community Building, Fuquay Varina Room
Apex/Holly Springs, NC  27539
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Telephone: 191-990-25432
Contact Name: Leigh Hamm
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Preschoolers (ages 3-5 with an adult) learn what wild animals do in winter by pretending to be animals that hibernate, migrate or just stay warm in the cold, winter woods! Take a hike, do a craft,...

Cost: $3

Where:
Wilkerson Nature Preserve
5229 Awls Haven Drive
Raleigh, NC  27614
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Sponsor: City of Raleigh Parks, Recreation and Cultural Resources
Telephone: 919-996-6764
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Explore nature through play!  The Main Library is partnering with local Tinkergarten leaders Heather Murphy and Kate MacCartney to bring the fun of nature indoors.  Join us as we investigate...

Cost: Free

Where:
Orange County Main Library
137 W Margaret Ln
Hillsborough, NC  27278
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Sponsor: Orange County Public Library
Telephone: 919-245-2539
Contact Name: Libbie Hough
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January Story Time, Puppet Show & Art Activity Puppet Show Incorporated https://www.puppetshowinc.org/ presents the classic Aesop fable The Lion and the Mouse. Activities include a story time,...

Cost: FREE

Where:
Carrboro Library
900 Old Fayetteville Road
Inside McDougle Middle School
Chapel Hill, NC  27516
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Sponsor: Carrboro Branch Library
Telephone: 919-969-3006
Contact Name: Beth Hawkey
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Want a wild start to your new year?When you’re facing the after-holiday blues after packing up the decorations and taking down the tree, never fear. Come celebrate the new year in a thrilling,...

Cost: $20 - $26

Where:
Animal Park at the Conservators Center
676 E Hughes Mill Rd
Burlington, NC  27217
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Sponsor: Animal Park at the Conservators Center
Telephone: 336-421-0883
Contact Name: Taylor Sharp

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Sign up for a Raleigh scavenger hunt and put on your best Nick Cage impression as you seek out the national treasures hidden in Raleigh. Via an app, be guided through the cultural, historical,...

Cost: See website for fees

Where:
Downtown Raleigh
500 S. Salisbury St.
Raleigh, NC  27601
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Sponsor: LetsRoam!
Telephone: 833-202-7626
Contact Name: LetsRoam!
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Skate on an ice trail or free skate on 17,000 sq. ft of ice. Located in the Upper Pond of the Whitewater Center, the skating environment features three distinct programming areas and an on-ice...

Cost: 20

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
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Lights is a half-mile walking trail that leads viewers through a series of immersive light installations featuring  honeycombs, vines, crystals, and other natural features integrated into the...

Cost: Free

Where:
USNWC
5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy
Charlotte, NC  28214
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Sponsor: USNWC
Telephone: 704-391-3900
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Spanish Alive is providing Family Spanish classes starting in January! Join us to learn Spanish as an entire family in an immersive, fun environment. Our teachers are trained Spanish educators and...

Cost: $75-$216

Where:
Spanish Alive
156 E. Chatham St
Cary, NC
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Family Wildlife Series: Owl Prowl Saturday, January 18, 6-7:15 p.m. Venture into the night on a Blue Jay hike.  Learn about owl habits and adaptations as we listen for these nocturnal birds....

Cost: Free

Where:
Blue Jay Point County Park
3200 Pleasant Union Church Road
Raleigh, NC  27614
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Telephone: 919-870-4330
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